I found a little message in my email 'in box' this evening, letting me know that I was skating on some pretty thin ice. It seems that it might have come across as if I were suggesting that I know better than the dom.
And, I thought it might be prudent to clear that up.
I certainly don't think I'm in any position to consider that I know better than the dom. It's up to the dom, and not me, to determine what is right.
Let me be clear. The dom is always right. Even when he is wrong. We all know that. It is not up for debate or argument in any way. I'm sure, somewhere, there is a rule book where this is written, even though I haven't actually seen it at all. I'm sure somebody has it tucked it away on a shelf at home.
Yet, these discussions between doms and subs are really so fascinating and titillating, who can resist a well-rounded, solid and comprehensive debate on all these D/s lifestyle issues? Debating, public speaking, speech writing; this is grist for the mill in my family. We thrive on disagreement really, because then we can come together to argue our point of view and have so much fun doing so. Think of it as you would a sport.
But any sort of thinking other than 'the dom is always right' just isn't part of the deal. Not at all. And, if it came over that way, it was simply a misunderstanding. I have no interest in skating on a pond with thin ice. Not me. Not at all.
I want to emphasize, underline and make extraordinarily clear, that as a submissive I in no way feel that my ideas are better or more worthy than that of the dom.
After the discussion, the debate, the arguing of one's point of view, the dom will always have the final say; as he should.
And, so it is. And, so it was. And, so it always shall be.
I'm glad we got that sorted.
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Life can be so complicated at times. Therefore I do see it as a duty to simplify things for Constance where possible. Constance may well have a better idea about something than I do, she may well be right about any number of things. She can always rely on me to tell her if that is the case. If I don't tell her, then that isn't the case. See how simple it is?
ReplyDeleteI wonder if petulance is enough extra weight to break the ice?
ReplyDeleteMr. C: Yes, that *would* simplify life and it is good to see a dom taking his duties so seriously. I am sure that Constance appreciates it.
ReplyDeleteSir J: I was intrigued to find so many words to describe the state of 'petulance'. Here are a few of them: sulkiness, irritability, ill-humour, touchiness, crabbiness, or being impatient. I can assure you that being 'impatient' to name just one example, may very well break the ice. But, isn't it interesting just how much is encompassed in that one word?! A dom can say, "Don't you be petulant with me!!!" and mean so many, many things. Funnily enough, the word 'petulant' has some femininity about it, to my mind. One rarey uses the word in relation to a man. I wonder why? (Think very carefully before you answer that one!!)
This concept is right in line with what I continue to call "Dom Logic." it's interesting to note that the Dom is always right, and we're always moody and high-maintenance. hmmmm......
ReplyDeletecutesy pah: Having done a certain amount of study in logic, I continue to be fascinatined with 'dom logic' myself. Sometimes, I feel that they must be talking some other language. Yet, I continue to try to learn it, wanting so much to be fluent in it.
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