Happy bodies

You know me. I just couldn't resist saying one last thing before I left...

Remember I talked about the men who said they loved coming home to their wives and spending time with them? Well, one of those men was rather inspirational and I thought to tell you a little more about him.

He wasn't the most handsome man the world has ever seen. He was on the wrong side of 50, he'd lost most of his hair, and his body was rather unlike the statue of David. Yet, he was an engaging man, and he had a lovely smile, alert and warm eyes. He talked about the fact that his emotional life and his sex life with his wife had been fine, but it was no longer thrilling. He felt there must be more. So, he took himself off, on his own, to a sex therapist and there a young woman taught him all about Tantric sex.He began to use the methods he had learned at home with his wife and this improved life considerably.

He didn't want to hold onto his secret forever and he told his wife what he had done. Being a woman, she was a bit jealous and when he suggested she come along to the sessions, she grabbed her bag and off they went.

Now, let me tell you about her. She was on the wrong side of 50, too. No longer a gorgeous, young thing, she had a certain style. She wore funky glasses and she had a Rubenesque look and way of moving. She was one of those women who look comfortable and right walking on the beach barefoot and fancy free. She did not have the perfect figure. She might even have had body shape issues. Her bottom was, shall we say...voluptuous.

So, they interviewed her about how life was now with her husband, since the sessions. I don't have her words verbatim but it went something like this:

"Before, a sexual encounter might last 20 minutes - say 15-20 minutes - something like that. Now, (and here she starts to look away from the camera as if remembering some lovely recent interlude from the past) we have sex for hours and hours..."

She blushes, looks down; giggles a little. She looks about 19. She is clearly a blissfully happy and contented woman.They hold hands, sit close; clearly revel in one another's company. He looks on adoringly.

This couple is not going to win any beauty contests but they are very happy. Now, I rather suspect that their doctor has suggested some modifications to their diet and encouraged even more of those walks along the beach. Bodies are important. We only get one and we have to take good care of it if we are to enjoy life to the maximum.

Yet, not having perfect bodies (and most likely perfect body images of themselves) didn't stop them from having that connection; from reinvigorating their lives and finding a deep sense of happiness.

Hunh. Maybe that's something to think about...