Seeds of thought

It is very early in the morning as I write this and I am grateful for the silence in my house. We all need time sometimes to be alone; to allow our mind to wander over thoughts, and to just be still. As I sit here, two thoughts come to mind. They are just random thoughts. But, sometimes random thoughts are the best kind. Sometimes, a random thought is like a small seed, from which a big and important thought will grow. Or, not. It is rather serendipitous.

Rachel Ward, the wife of Bryan Brown and a film director these days, was speaking of her role as director. She spoke of how the actor needed to feel safe and she tried to create that environment for him or her. So often a director had said to her, “Trust me”, but she had put her faith in someone who had let her down. So, it was important to her to follow through. If she asked an actor to trust her, she wanted to be sure to follow through on that promise.

The second thought came from a girl on a discussion group about D/s relationships. She referred to D/s relationships much as I have always thought of marriage. She said, two people bring to the relationship their various strengths. One person is good at doing this and the other person is good at doing that. Together, they complement one another and make a whole.

In life, giving our trust to others is a big step. We want so much to trust and yet, it makes us vulnerable, too. We must make a judgement of the integrity and worth of the person, and should they fail, in a sense, we do, too. D/s asks us to trust another. The dominant asks the submissive to trust. The submissive gives to him, her trust. It is the most noble of exchanges; not unlike that of a parent and child. At its best, it is as pure of heart as that. It’s a good thing.

In a D/s relationship, there is not really one strong person and the other, weak. There are two people who bring their strengths and weaknesses to the table. One brings the meat. The other brings the vegetables. Added together, they have a full meal.

People need people. People give love and get love when their hearts are open, available and accessible.

Live your life. It is here and it is gone. Embrace it. Love.