I've been reading about Carl Jung who outlined five main archetypes. I'm particularly interested in 'the shadow' at the present - the evil lurking within everyone, or perhaps, the dark side of the hero. Jung also talks of the 'self', and as I understand it he is talking about the unconscious and the conscious mind of the individual.
In a woman such as myself, a women with a submissive nature, there is an attraction to 'the shadow' in a man. Sure, one wants to know that he will tend and care, that he is kind and good, but as well, one wants to be in contact with 'the devil'. Such a woman wants to touch base with the unpredictable; the slightly dangerous; the man with a voracious appetite; the man who likes 'pretty' but who also likes to defile 'the pretty'. For many years this thought was deep within my subconscious until I embraced it and recognized it as part of my conscious understanding.
Whilst it is widely accepted that a woman with a submissive nature is expected to be 'well behaved', this is not always possible. She needs to tap into 'the shadow' and if it is not available to her, she will do (consciously, or, most likely subconsciously), whatever she needs to do to have that shadow return to her life.
'The shadow' provides her with the energy she requires. If there is a female Dracula, she is it - drinking blood from the man's shadow - her life force - that with which she must make contact to live and thrive.
Perhaps it is accurate to say that both the man and the woman have a 'shadow' - a dark side, and that one dark side requires the other. I am sorry to be the one to say that although the submissive woman may appear on the outside as some sort of Pollyanna, the simple fact is that her shadow is as dark as the man to whom she is attracted. Should you attempt to deny her your shadow, her fangs will become noticeable. She must have what she must have, one way or the other. It would be wise not to deny her.
In a woman such as myself, a women with a submissive nature, there is an attraction to 'the shadow' in a man. Sure, one wants to know that he will tend and care, that he is kind and good, but as well, one wants to be in contact with 'the devil'. Such a woman wants to touch base with the unpredictable; the slightly dangerous; the man with a voracious appetite; the man who likes 'pretty' but who also likes to defile 'the pretty'. For many years this thought was deep within my subconscious until I embraced it and recognized it as part of my conscious understanding.
Whilst it is widely accepted that a woman with a submissive nature is expected to be 'well behaved', this is not always possible. She needs to tap into 'the shadow' and if it is not available to her, she will do (consciously, or, most likely subconsciously), whatever she needs to do to have that shadow return to her life.
'The shadow' provides her with the energy she requires. If there is a female Dracula, she is it - drinking blood from the man's shadow - her life force - that with which she must make contact to live and thrive.
Perhaps it is accurate to say that both the man and the woman have a 'shadow' - a dark side, and that one dark side requires the other. I am sorry to be the one to say that although the submissive woman may appear on the outside as some sort of Pollyanna, the simple fact is that her shadow is as dark as the man to whom she is attracted. Should you attempt to deny her your shadow, her fangs will become noticeable. She must have what she must have, one way or the other. It would be wise not to deny her.
This is extremely interesting and so very, very, true.
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Anon: The hunger is felt on both sides. This is what is so enticing, I believe, that two people are as desperate to be fed as one another.
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